What I learned from sweeping up hair

April 13, 2008

Picture_2 I’ve worked many an odd job during my illustrious career but the one that gets the most raised eyebrows was my job as the Jack of All Trades at a beauty salon.  Mostly, I did clean up, hauled heavy boxes, stocked the hair dye shelves and swept up a whole lot of hair.

I was about 14 and couldn’t get a "real job" yet so I took this one for cash under the table.  The salon was a throwback to the 50s, where ladies came to get their hair done weekly and gossip.  While the job itself left a lot to be desired, there were some real life lessons (and marketing truths) among the tendrils.

Being noticed matters:  While some patrons took notice of the teen-aged boy in the all woman territory, most didn’t.  In fact, for the most part, I was invisible.  They might absentmindedly lift up their feet as I swept around them or hand me something to throw away, but I was just the clean up kid.  They didn’t really take notice of if I was tall or short, blond or dark-haired, or what my name was.

For those few ladies who actually took a moment to greet me or ask me about my work, I was immensely grateful.  Being invisible stinks. 

Marketing truth:  Our clients/customers feel the same way.  Being ignored or invisible is actually worse than getting bad news or bad service. 


If you listen to a group of people with something in common, you’ll be stunned what you learn:
  Okay, so the one advantage of being mostly invisible is that I could listen in on the patrons conversations without them paying any attention.  It was quite an education for a 14 year old guy! 

Like all hair salons, the chairs were close.  So pretty soon, 5-6 women between the stylists and the customers, would be knee deep in a no-holds barred conversation.   They quickly  drove the conversation to those things that were top on their mind.  When given the opportunity, they talked about what mattered to them. 

Marketing truth:  You can gain incredible insights if you create an environment that allows people to be themselves and share their thoughts.


In the end, people are hungry for approval:
  Many of the women who came to this salon were very wealthy, had everything they could want and yet, they still stood a lot taller once a clerk or stylist complimented them.  People, no matter how successful, all together or intelligent still crave being noticed and appreciated.

it didn’t just change their posture — it changed their entire demeanor.  You could see it in their eyes and how they interacted with everyone around them.  There was a bounce in their walk as they left the salon.

Marketing truth:  It is a brand’s ultimate success if being associated with it says something complimentary about the consumer.  If owning a Harley says I am cool, bravo to Harley.  If being an Apple fanatic says I am creative, high five to Apple. 

Why am I sharing this, you wonder?  It’s part of an on-going writing project started by Robert Hruzek.  Ironically Marcus Goodyear had started a very similar project.  (hat tip to Robyn for finding this project.) And I believe that in every experience, we can learn a little something about marketing.  If I can learn some marketing truths while sweeping up hair…I know you’ve learned a thing or two along the way.

Okay, I shared my weird odd job and what I learned…your turn!

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How do you bend time?

April 12, 2008

30462848 Things have been a little busy lately.  We just launched a huge campaign for a client (had to go from creative concept to on the air in 34 days), I’ve had this little thing called Blogger Social going on and then there’s Age of Conversation ’08.

Many of you have e-mailed or tweeted, wondering how I’ve been juggling it all.   Truth is…like all of you, sometimes I think I can’t possibly shoehorn one more thought into the day.  But somehow, we all do.

Time is the scarce commodity today. I think it goes beyond the new, leaner organizational structure.  Much of the blame should be aimed at our pagers, phones, PDAs, and people "buzzing" into our day and not only taking up time but also continually breaking our ability to concentrate on the task at hand. 

Even when things aren’t so crazy (when is that again?), sometimes we need to carve out some time to think, write, be creative or power through a project.  Here are some thoughts for shutting down the buzz so you can concentrate:

Plane ride for one.  One of the best things about flying is that no one can reach you.  Peace and quiet.  So turn off all electronic devices and close the "cabin" door and just work in solitude.  If you explain what you’re doing in advance, no one will begrudge you a little alone time.

Play hide n’ seek.   Why is it that when you are feeling absolutely under the gun, your co-worker has a weekend she just has to tell you about?  If you have a colleague who’s out or a vacant conference room, these make for great hiding places.  When you’re not where you belong, people assume you’re just not around.

Get out.  It’s difficult to be strategic or creative when you are sitting in the same place, looking at the same wall, day after day.  When you have big picture planning to do, grab your team and get out of the office.  Find a coffee shop, park, or other haunt that you can just escape the daily grind and let your mind run free.

As marketers, we’re forced to be creative on demand.  Sometimes you have to give yourself a little edge to get the job done. 

How do you give yourself an edge?  What’s your favorite time bending trick?

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Words just don’t cut it

April 8, 2008

2397118281_54aecdecc0 I believe words are incredibly powerful.  They can push past someone’s fear.  They can inspire someone to act.  They can humble the proudest of men. They can bring someone to their knees. They can also touch a heart and change it forever.

But for the past two days I have been trying to get them to do the impossible. 

Describe Blogger Social weekend.

I simply cannot do it justice.  Maybe that’s because the weekend wasn’t about words.  It wasn’t cerebral or of the mind. 

It was all about the soul.

Magnockme It was hearing a laugh you’d imagined many times. It was about sipping sour only to discover that in the UK it’s called bitters.

It was scooting close to pose for yet another photo. It was cramming into cabs in search of an open diner at 3 am, simply because you weren’t ready to say good-bye.

Welcome It was watching two old friends hug for the first time.  It was the sizzle of bacon as you share breakfast with buddies who are like brothers to you, even though they live half way across the world.

It was about goofy corsages, a shared cookie, and being friends 4ever.

It was about laughter.  And tears. 

It was about soaking each other in, knowing it would be a while before we’d be together again.

Gavdrew It was the discovery that everyone was just as you expected them to be.  And reveling in how wonderful that is.

It was about everything that truly matters.  And I simply don’t have the words to describe it.

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I hate cancer

March 30, 2008

I hate cancer.

I don’t use the word hate very often.  I don’t hate very many things.  But I do hate cancer. 

I hate the doubt it puts in someone’s heart when they think about their future.  I hate how it terrifies us to point that we avoiding screenings because we can’t bear to know.  I hate the long, heart-wrenching journey that cancer patients and their families have to walk.  I hate that cancer survivors still feel branded by the disease long after they get a clean bill of health.

I don’t know very many families that haven’t been touched by cancer.  Unfortunately, everyone is fair game.

Momkdad For me,   the hatred is very personal.  My mom is a cancer survivor.  Her first diagnosis was breast cancer.  Her first diagnosis was more than 20 years ago.  She beat it.  More than once.  Today, she’s healthy and enjoying her grandchildren, retirement and life. (and nagging me but that’s another post!)

The silver lining of a cancer diagnosis is that it brings into sharp focus how precious life is and how trivial most of the things we worry about are.  It reminds us to breath in each day, absorbing all the laughter and light.  It also teaches us how connected we all are and how much a hug, a word of support or a shoulder to lean on can mean to us.

Which is the real point of this post.  Because that’s where we come in.

My friend Todd Andrlik , creator of the Power 150 and author of the Todd And marketing blog, got some devastating news last week.  His sister Tricia was diagnosed with invasive lobular carcinoma the same cancer that struck Susan Reynolds late last year.  Tricia underwent a double mastectomy over the weekend and is going to begin a rigorous treatment schedule once she heals from her surgery.

The good news is the surgery went very well and the doctors are optimistic.  But I can tell you from personal experience that Todd, Tricia and their family still need plenty from us.

I cannot possibly overstate how vital and healing support from family, friends, the community and even perfect strangers can be.  Todd has created a site for his sister where you can offer words of encouragement, prayers, or read more about her journey.

Picture_2 You can also support them financially.  It’s easy to get so fixated on the disease itself that we forget how it absolutely disrupts life as we know it.  Tricia won’t be able to work to support her family, will need all kinds of medical supplies and even if she has amazing insurance, will rack up some medical expenses. 

Todd (and some good friends Shannon Whitley and Kami Huyse) have created several ways you can help.  You can purchase a t-shirt or other items, be a part of the pixel wall (you’ll see my face and my mom’s there), just make a donation or sponsor the site itself. 

Don’t worry about the amount.  That’s not what matters.  What matters is that odds are, your life has been touched by cancer.  You know what Todd’s family is facing and how uplifting a kind word or gesture can be.  We can’t cure her body, but we sure can help heal their hearts and souls.

Take five minutes and join me in showering them with hope, holding them in healing prayers and above all else, let them know that they are not alone.

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Keep Arun in your thoughts and prayers

February 27, 2008

Prayersforarunsfamily We talk a lot about conversation, community and sharing in the blogosphere.  We see evidence of it every day.  Gavin’s friends, CK’s Momma Tree, The Frozen Pea Fund.  $11,000+ to Variety (Age of Conversation).  And so many more.

One of the bloggers who has come to embody those virtues for me is Arun Rajagopal.  He’s one of the first to raise his hand to help with any project or to support any blogger.  He loves shining the spotlight on others’ efforts while downplaying his own contributions.

He’s a a smart marketer.  A generous community member. And a friend.

So, I was so sad to hear that he lost his mom this week. 

As you’d expect the community quickly rose up to create a support network.  We can’t be at his side as much as we’d like to, but we can show that we care. 

We’ve created a place where everyone can leave him a thought, prayer or just let him know that you’re thinking of him and sending your warmth.  Please join us and remind him just how mighty and giving this community is.

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Is it work or play…and what’s the cost?

February 22, 2008

Pluggedin Three converging thoughts/conversations:

  1. A recent post on this blog about how our work/personal lives are becoming more blended
  2. An on-going e-mail conversation with KG (Kristin Gorski) about the pressures of trying to keep up coupled with her post about our muses
  3. Greg Verdino‘s pot stirring post, asking if we’re fooling ourselves with social media tools

I’d love it if you’d take a few minutes and check out out the posts referenced in #1 and #3.  Then, read the post mentioned in #2.

What are the pros and cons of being "plugged in?"  What do we gain?  What do we pay?  For you, personally and professionally — how does it weigh out?

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How do you create happiness?

February 10, 2008

Happyteen I’ve been thinking a lot about happiness over the past few months.  What does it really look like?  Or feel like?  And how elusive is it really?  Is it a condition we have to find ourselves in thanks to circumstance or someone else or perhaps is it a condition we have to create? 

Ironically, about a month ago, Lewis Green challenged some of us to write a post about happiness.  He said:

Your assignment, should you choose to accept it, is to write one post about happiness–what it means to you, your customers or your fellow workers in the context of business or to recommend a way or two people can be happier in their own lives. In either place–business or personal– how can we together make the world a better place to live and or work, while growing prosperity in however you choose to define prosperous?

You know how when you’re thinking about buying a certain kind of car, you see it on the road everywhere?  Of course, it’s not that there are suddenly more of them on the road, it’s just that you’re tuned into them.

As I pondered all things happiness, I noticed how many unhappy people there are.  Complaining, moping, blaming others, angry, road raging people.  Yuck.  All of them shaking their proverbial fist at someone or something — that which stole their happiness.

But then, my daughter caught my attention.  Despite her teenage status, she’s almost always happy.  And when she’s not, she’s able to right herself pretty quickly.  With Lewis’ challenge in the back of my head, I started to actively observe how she accomplished that.

With full acknowledgment that she’s developed this "tricks" and I am just the faithful reporter….here’s my contribution to Lewis’ efforts and the on-going discussion of happiness.

Have an escape plan:  When the day or someone has gotten the better of you — give yourself a break.  Peel away and sooth your soul with whatever helps you find balance.  Have a space that’s all yours….no one will interrupt or intrude.  Whether it’s your walk in closet, your car or an entire house, everyone needs their own space.

Crank the music:  Bach, Moody Blues or Fergie — whatever does the trick for you.  Let the music fill you up.  10 minutes with her iPod (and some very loud singing) and my daughter is ready to tackle with world. 

Have a safe haven:  Having one (or more) people that you can tell anything to…without having to ever worry that your words will be used against you or have judgment passed on them is a gift.  A gift, I suspect, most people don’t have.  Do you have someone like that?  Perhaps more important — are you someone like that for someone else?

Help someone else: My daughter takes an extra gym class. In this class, she helps mentally and physically handicapped kids enjoy gym.  They wouldn’t be able to take the class if it weren’t for some of their able-bodied classmates being willing to take this 2nd gym period as an elective.  I’m pretty sure she benefits as much, if not more, than the kids she helps.

Allow for plenty of alone time:  As time-starved adults, I suspect we’ve forgotten how much time (and the value of that time) we used to spend alone — thinking, reading, just being.  Don’t crowd your calendar and your life with so much that you can’t step away and just breathe.

Move it: Dance, run, jump on the bed (a very effective option), walk, play tennis, bike — but do something that gets your blood pumping.

Be grateful:  Truth is…for just about anyone reading this — you have a life that would be envied by most of the world.  No matter how much you are struggling or what you’re struggling with.  Say thank you as often as you can.  Keep a gratitude journal.  Count your blessings.

Laugh.  Every day: I think this is the one that means the most and costs the least.  Be silly, be stupid, be juvenile.  Remember how you used to laugh at the dumbest things when you were a kid?  And your parents would look at you like you were crazy? Who was happier back then?

As I conducted my little study and spent more time thinking about the whole notion of happiness — I re-discovered what I already knew.  It’s our responsibility.  If you want to be happy — then be happy.  Go out of your way to make sure you’re happy.

Which of course, is the answer to Lewis’ question too.  How can we make the world a better place to live and work?  By contributing a happy person to the mix.  Take responsibility for your own happiness.  Own it.  Hold yourself and no one else, accountable for it.

And then liberally mix that happy person (you) with the rest of the world.  It’s quite infectious.

How about it…what’s in your formula for being happy?

 

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Are the walls between our personal and professional lives crumbling?

February 8, 2008

Blur When I was growing up, my dad set the standard for how a business person behaved.  He went to work every day, did his thing and came home.  He would, on occasion, bring some work (read — paper) home with him.  I’m sure my dad made friends at the office but I didn’t know or hear about them.

My parents socialized (bridge, cocktail parties, etc.) with the neighbor couples.

They’d occasionally have to go to a dinner or host some work people at our house.  But those were rare occasions. For the most part, his two worlds were pretty separate. 

Today, I look at my two worlds (work and personal) and the line is awfully blurry.  Sometimes I wonder if that’s a good thing. Just in the last couple of weeks…

  • I’ve twittered (to my professional network) about my daughter’s incredible performance in her one act play
  • I read on Facebook that one of my employees didn’t crawl out of bed until 4:30 pm
  • I’ve posted family photos on my Flickr account
  • I’ve gotten a ticket (the game Parking Wars) on Facebook from a Microsoft exec
  • My marketing/branding blog has promoted a purely social event in NYC
  • I’ve had lunch with a client and we mostly talked about our kids
  • I sent a condolence message to a marketing colleague when I read her Twitter that she’d lost their family pet
  • In rapid succession, I joined a branding group and our church’s group on Facebook
  • A blog reader sent me a link to view his video chronicles of his personal journey with weight loss
  • I have pet work colleague’s (fluff) friends on Facebook (not as bad as it sounds)

And that’s just the tip of the iceberg.  Are you experiencing the same thing?  Online or offline, are your lines getting equally blurred?

What do you think about this phenomenon?  Do you think this merging of our lives has something to do with the fact that the old work day of 9-5 is also a thing of the past?

What’s the upside?  Downside?

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Blogger social or bust?

February 1, 2008

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Have you heard?  We’re throwing a party.

You coming?  No matter where you are….hold up a sign and hitchhike if you have to.  But NYC is where you want to be April 4th – 6th.

Two weeks from today, the attendee list closes.  You’ve got to register and pay no later than 02/15.  New York City.  Over 50 marketing bloggers.  And about 225 hours of fun packed into less than 48.

This is going to be a weekend you will remember for the rest of your life.  We promise.

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Where will you be 90 days from today?

January 3, 2008

Hopefully you will be in New York City with all the other Blogger Social attendees (see list of who is already on board at the end of this post) featured in this very special video.

Many thanks to Mark Goren for his help with making this video. All information on Blogger Social ’08, including registration is available here.

Here’s the deal.  If you are already on board — please grab the collage and the video and spread the word on your blog.

If you have not registered — you have until February 15th.  That’s it. No extensions.  No excuses.  I promise you — this is going to be a party not to be missed.

Check out this beautiful collage, created by Mark Goren and Luc Debaisieux and the list of attendees to date.  Can you imagine all of these people in the same room? Can you imagine NOT being there?  (Click on collage to get full-sized version)

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Attendees so far include:

Susan Bird
Tim Brunelle
Katie Chatfield
Terry Dagrosa
Matt Dickman
Luc Debaisieux
Gianandrea Facchini
Mark Goren
Gavin Heaton
Sean Howard
CK
Valeria Maltoni
Drew McLellan
Doug Meacham
Marilyn Pratt
Steve Roesler
Greg Verdino
CB Whittemore
Steve Woodruff
Paul McEnany
Ann Handley
David Reich
Tangerine Toad
Kristin Gorski
Mack Collier
David Armano
Ryan Barrett
Lori Magno
Tim McHale
Gene DeWitt
Mario Vellandi
Arun Rajagopal
Darryl Ohrt
Joseph Jaffe
Rohit Bhargava
Anna Farmery
Marianne Richmond
Thomas Clifford
Lewis Green
Geoff Livingston
Kris Hoet
Connie Reece
CeCe Lee
Jonathan Trenn
Toby Bloomberg
Seni Thomas

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